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If you're struggling with an avoidant attachment style and seeking professional guidance, Ken Reid Counselling is here to help. 


Our team of experienced and compassionate counsellors specialises in providing effective therapy to individuals dealing with avoidant attachment patterns. With our supportive approach and tailored techniques, we aim to assist you in developing healthier behavioural styles and improving your overall well-being.

Understanding Avoidant Attachment Style

This style is a psychological pattern characterised by a fear of intimacy, emotional closeness, and a tendency to suppress emotions. And believe it or not, it’s common.

Individuals with this attachment style often struggle to form and maintain deep and meaningful relationships. They may have experienced early childhood experiences that led to a lack of trust and emotional unavailability, which can have long-lasting effects on adult relationships.


If this is you, you’re not alone. We are here to help.

How It Manifests

Understanding how avoidant attachment style affects your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours is key to identifying areas where professional counselling can be helpful. 


Here are some ways you may experience this style of behaviour and thinking:


Emotional Detachment: Individuals with avoidant attachment styles often struggle with emotional closeness and intimacy. They may have difficulty expressing their feelings or connecting deeply with others. They may perceive emotional vulnerability as a sign of weakness and avoid situations requiring emotional openness.


Fear of Reliance: There is often a fear of relying on others or being dependent on them. You may experience a strong desire for independence and self-sufficiency, leading to reluctance to seek support or share your needs with others. This fear of reliance can stem from past experiences of feeling let down or abandoned.


Difficulty Trusting: Due to past experiences of disappointment or betrayal, individuals with an avoidant attachment style may find it challenging to trust others. This can mean you tend to keep your guard up, expecting that others will let you down or hurt you. 


Discomfort with Intimacy: It also manifests as emotional and physical intimacy discomfort. You may feel uneasy when relationships become too close or when you perceive a loss of personal space. It’s not unusual to want to create emotional distance or engage in behaviours that maintain independence, such as avoiding vulnerability or keeping relationships superficial.


Fear of Abandonment: While you might crave independence, you might also fear abandonment. This fear can lead to patterns of pushing people away or creating distance in relationships to protect yourself from potential rejection. Paradoxically, you might also desire closeness and connection but struggle to maintain it.


Self-Reliance as a Coping Mechanism: It’s likely you also often rely heavily on self-reliance as a coping mechanism. In some cases, you might suppress your emotions, deny your own needs, and avoid seeking help or support from others. This self-reliance can lead to feelings of isolation and hinder the development of healthy support systems.


Our professional avoidant attachment style counselling can give you access to a supportive and non-judgmental space to overcome these challenges.

Our Approach to Counselling

Tailored Treatment Plans: Our experienced counsellors develop personalised treatment plans to address your specific needs and goals. We take the time to understand your attachment style, history, and current challenges to design an approach that best suits you.


Emotional Support: We create a non-judgmental and empathetic space where you can openly express your thoughts, feelings, and concerns. Our counsellors offer emotional support and guidance throughout the therapeutic process, helping you develop healthier emotional regulation skills.


Building Trust and Intimacy: Through evidence-based techniques, we help you identify and challenge negative beliefs and defense mechanisms associated with your avoidant attachment style. We strive to help you establish secure and fulfilling relationships by gradually building trust and promoting healthy intimacy through effective avoidant attachment style counselling.

If you're ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery, healing, and growth, Ken Reid Counselling is here to support you. Our professional team is ready to get started and guide you towards developing healthier relationship patterns. Contact us today to book your session.

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